Too often women expect their men to pleasure them without
having first identified what they like. This is not to say that women do not
recognize when something feels good, rather, what I am suggesting is that
some women do know what the literal motions are that cause them to feel
good. Thus, this exercise is designed to help women identify which motions
are most pleasing to their own bodies. Given that this is a two-person
exercise, the male will also benefit from this exercise. Not only will he be
with a woman who has a greater awareness for her own body, but he too will have
learned with her what types of motions turn her on the most!
This exercise begins when the male has an erection and the
female is lubricated. Some couples prefer masturbating to ensure a ‘hard’
erection and a ‘wet’ vagina. If the woman is having trouble lubricating,
sometimes adding a little bit of Astroglide, a water based lubricant, is
helpful. Once wet, engage in coitus with the woman on
top. Specifically the male should lay still to encourage the woman to
engulf his erect penis with her vagina. The woman should then move her hips in
as many different ways as she can think of, all the while taking note of which
motions feel the best to her. Having discovered what feels best, repeat,
but this time changing the position of the knees / legs. Specifically a)
squatting, b) sitting upright with legs out in front (so the motion comes from
using your arms to help move you, c) laying down with both feet being near each
other d) kneeling while leaning forward e) kneeling while sitting
upright. Again move the hips in all different directions a) forward, b)
side-to-side, c) circular and d) up & down. Throughout all of these positions
their should be silence between the partners. The goal of this is NOT for the
male pleasure, but rather for the female pleasure. She is simply moving for her
own excitement. Then, at the woman’s command, the man should tilt his pelvis a)
back, b) none c) slightly forward d) all the way forward. Again, the woman
will need to repeat all the different positions so that she will be able to
determine which positions causes her the most arousal.