Every morning wake-up drink milk; and will think what breakfast for today.....
When noon time have to think what to eat for my lunch....
During this time the most accompany stuff is my laptop and the tv.
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During the pregnant time is a lot to go... specially stay at home is the most boring life.
Locating a Sex Therapist*
What you can expect
Sex therapy is superior to other forms of therapy for sexual
problems because the therapist has specific training in sexual function &
dysfunction. In your sessions, you will have the opportunity to talk openly
about your most personal problems and receive specific suggestions about how to
solve them.
What will happen in your sessions
The first few sessions are spent getting to know you and
understanding your problem. You will explore your psycho-social background
and your family dynamics. Special emphasis will be placed on your sexual
history, including how you learned about sexuality, developed your sexual
values and your sexual behaviors to date. The trained therapist, with your
input, will develop an appropriate diagnosis and treatment plan.
Typically, treatment begins using a behavioral model (with special exercises given at the end of each session to be practiced at home by yourself or with your partner). Treatment is usually short-term. However, where necessary, the therapist will work with you to resolve long term underlying issues which may inhibit free expression of sexuality.
Typically, treatment begins using a behavioral model (with special exercises given at the end of each session to be practiced at home by yourself or with your partner). Treatment is usually short-term. However, where necessary, the therapist will work with you to resolve long term underlying issues which may inhibit free expression of sexuality.
Semi-Housewife
Due to pregnant I have to stay at home to get ready give birth my sweet baby,
and because my body not strong enough. I have to quit my job.
During this 2 weeks become semi-housewife is very boring.
Monday, Wednesday & Friday is time for me to cook the nice dinner for my hubby and my sweet baby.
The other day go out to have dinner.
Discovering ones own body – with the help of a partner
Too often women expect their men to pleasure them without
having first identified what they like. This is not to say that women do not
recognize when something feels good, rather, what I am suggesting is that
some women do know what the literal motions are that cause them to feel
good. Thus, this exercise is designed to help women identify which motions
are most pleasing to their own bodies. Given that this is a two-person
exercise, the male will also benefit from this exercise. Not only will he be
with a woman who has a greater awareness for her own body, but he too will have
learned with her what types of motions turn her on the most!
This exercise begins when the male has an erection and the
female is lubricated. Some couples prefer masturbating to ensure a ‘hard’
erection and a ‘wet’ vagina. If the woman is having trouble lubricating,
sometimes adding a little bit of Astroglide, a water based lubricant, is
helpful. Once wet, engage in coitus with the woman on
top. Specifically the male should lay still to encourage the woman to
engulf his erect penis with her vagina. The woman should then move her hips in
as many different ways as she can think of, all the while taking note of which
motions feel the best to her. Having discovered what feels best, repeat,
but this time changing the position of the knees / legs. Specifically a)
squatting, b) sitting upright with legs out in front (so the motion comes from
using your arms to help move you, c) laying down with both feet being near each
other d) kneeling while leaning forward e) kneeling while sitting
upright. Again move the hips in all different directions a) forward, b)
side-to-side, c) circular and d) up & down. Throughout all of these positions
their should be silence between the partners. The goal of this is NOT for the
male pleasure, but rather for the female pleasure. She is simply moving for her
own excitement. Then, at the woman’s command, the man should tilt his pelvis a)
back, b) none c) slightly forward d) all the way forward. Again, the woman
will need to repeat all the different positions so that she will be able to
determine which positions causes her the most arousal.
Home Business – Be Your Own Boss and Don’t Even Leave the House
These days there are an increasing number of businesses being run from home. Due to the huge boom in e-commerce and mail order, people wanting to run a small business find it increasingly practical to do so from the comfort of their own home.
Picture a person who has a talent for sewing and a good eye for design. They might be put off the idea of trying to turn their skill into a business because of the cost of renting a building and the worries of choosing a location where their skills are in demand. Instead, this person can start a home business. All they need is the raw materials to turn their sewing skill into a product (handbags, clothing, whatever they prefer) and a way to advertise the business, usually a website. Now they can advertise their designs online, receive orders, make the items and deliver them to the customer by mail order.
Home businesses cut a lot of costs but there are also disadvantages. It is important to check several things, which can be found on government and business related websites. You should check that your mortgage or tenancy agreement does not prohibit running a business. You should confer with your insurance company in case you need to pay more insurance. If you need to make structural changes then you will need to speak to planning permission department of your local government, and health and safety usually need to be consulted. The rooms you use may be charged business tax rates. Lastly, a home business can cause problems with domestic life and is not a choice taken lightly.
A home business is still a great way to start up a small business that can always grow larger in the future. Start up costs are drastically reduced, as is time to start up. You are not tied into any agreements with property agents. You can set your own working times to allow more family time, and of course you can get help from your family if they want to chip in with production or administration. Best of all, you don’t need to travel to work!
10 Things You Will Like About A Home Based Business
Here's a few things I've discovered along the way that you will like about owning your own home based business.
1. You Are The Boss
How many people endure a Boss that undervalues your contribution to the organization? Or one who takes credit for your work. More than you might think! Own your own business and you are the boss! You take the credit win, lose, or draw.
2. Work The Hours You Want
That's right! Suppose your spouse works the late shift, you would rather be home during daytime to take care of the children. And you would prefer not putting the children into day care? If you are self employed, you can easily re-schedule your work to fit your family situation.
3. No Long Commute
A friend once spent 4 hours commuting to work each day. Talk about stress. She was tired before the work day began! Say goodbye to the long commute when you are self-employed. Your longest commute might be from one the bedroom to your home office.
4. Goodby Office Politics.
Have you experienced office politics? The co-workers positioning themselves with power figures to move up in the organization. Say goodbye to office politics!
5. Less Stress
Working in a familiar home environment will reduce your stress load. At home, you work at your own pace. If work gets hectic, you take a break. Put your feet up and relax.
6. Dress Codes
No more confining business suits, uniforms, or conforming to a stiff dress code. If you handle all your business over a computer or the telephone Dress The Way You Like!
7. Spend More Time With Your Family
This is a great opportunity to get the family involved in your business. And spend more quality time together.
8. Use A Skill You've Never Had The Opportunity To Use
You have ample opportunity to use your marketing skills, managing skills, accounting skills, people skills, sales skills, computer skills, and many other task you've been itching to try.
9. Realize Your Business Goals
You've taken that first difficult step toward personal and business success. By Striking out on your own and starting a home based business.
10. Boost Self Esteem
You now have more control over your financial and personal future. This will lead to a boost in your self esteem on many levels.
These are only a few of the things you will like about owning a home based business. Once you've started your own business you will add many more to the list!
Seven Tips For Work-At-Home Motivation
Considering a work-from-home business? Clients often say their biggest fear is loss of momentum. Here are seven tips to keep yourself motivated and productive.
(1) Build structure into your day.
Create a schedule and To Do list every evening for the next day, before you sign off for the day. (And yes – it is important to sign off, even if you return later to complete a project.) Include breaks and email reading time.
(2) Define goals by numbers ("write 1000 words") instead of time ("2 hours on Mega account"). One of the joys of working at home is you get to quit when you're finished ahead of schedule.
(3) Train friends and neighbors to respect your working hours.
Clients tell me about neighbors who say things like, "I told the UPS truck to leave the package at your house since you're always home." Discourage phone calls with a prepared response, like "I will call you after four o'clock today." You will be tested. Prepare to hang tough.
(4) Get the family on board.
Deal with their concerns before you start and be prepared to show how you are creating a win-win situation. Clarify what counts as an emergency – a valid reason to interrupt while you are working - and what can wait till dinnertime.
(5) Build breaks into your schedule.
When I started my own business, I was warned, "Plan to get out of the house! Otherwise you'll never leave your desk."
Frankly, I didn't get it.
Why wouldn't I take breaks? Now as I find myself answering just one more email, or adding two more paragraphs to an article, I see the clock move and realize I must stop if I want to get to the gym or the store before closing time.
Bonus Tip: A dog will force you to get moving, no matter what else is going on in your life.
(6) Make promises you will be motivated to keep.
My weekly ezine motivates me to write at least one article a week. You may be energized by company and client deadlines.
As your responsibilities grow, you will tend to accumulate more and more "real" deadlines and it's easier to stay motivated. But in the early stages, you're isolated, you're working hard and results don't appear immediately. That's why some people hire coaches and consultants to create accountability.
(7) Give yourself time to test your commitment.
Not everyone enjoys the work-at-home option. My clients tell me they need six to twelve months to decide how they are responding to this arrangement. You may decide to return to a workplace where you can see real people everyday. Or you may get hooked on having a dog-friendly, gossip-free workplace where you can open the windows all year round.
Working From Home
Home Sweet Home?
The majority of people who start small businesses do so by using their homes as offices. This makes a great deal of sense when you consider the cost of leasing even a small office. If you’re lucky enough to have an extra room for an office, you’ll find that your life will be a lot easier than if you are forced to use your bedroom. Those people with studio apartments have it worse because wherever they walk for a moment of relaxation; they are still in their office. Though there are many tax advantages to using a portion of your home as an office, there are many emotional and mental disadvantages and these must be strongly considered before setting up shop at home. If you are young and living at home, or if you are married with children, either way, you will have challenges.
For instance, if you’re the type of person who likes to grab an extra few minutes of sleep in the morning, if you’re the type of person who likes to press the “snooze” button every ten minutes just to squeeze in another couple of minutes of rest, then just try to imagine the trouble you’ll have getting out of bed when you have to stay home to work.
Hey, what’s your rush when you’re already at the office, right? Well, if you were a procrastinator before working at home, you’ll become a bigger and worse procrastinator after a few weeks of self-employment in your bedroom. Without constant motivation to keep moving, you will rapidly find yourself in a rut. So, what’s your motivation to get to work? Simple. If you don’t get out of bed to start work, then you may not have a bed to lie in much longer!
The flip-side to this problem is getting yourself so involved in your work that you do not know how to shut off your energy and stop working at the end of your day. If by chance you bypass this problem, you may have the pleasure of making a new friend – insomnia. With no private place to unwind at the end of the day, you may find yourself staring at the four walls every night as you lie in bed. A bed can become a comfortable place to work, but such actions also act on the unconscious; your mind begins to relate working with your bedroom. The new result is hyperactivity. You become a workaholic, and all you think about is work.
Though you want to maintain a certain degree of being hard on yourself, you do not want to overdo it, so be careful in how and where you set up your home office. If you have a spare room or den, use it instead of your bedroom. If not, be prepared for some new and interesting emotional and physical problems to pop up.
What's The Matter With Kids Today?
I've had the good fortune of working at home twice in my career thus far, first when I lived at home with my Mom when I was in my early 20's, and then more recently when I retired in 2000.
My Mom never understood what I was doing working in my bedroom at all hours of the night. Years later, a similar problem occurred when I worked at home when my children were still very young. They didn't understand why Dad was home either. They supposed it was so I could play with them! Wrong!
Whether you are dealing with parents, girlfriends, wives or your children, you need to establish some ground rules for the home office. You need to determine your work hours (you can be flexible here), your breaks (lunch with loved ones), acceptable interruptions (hugs and kisses), your tolerance for noise, and play time (for you and for them).
Home Business, What's So Great About It?
Home Business allows you more time to do what you want.
Home Business gives you more freedom i.e. no more 9-5 job.
Because a Home Business is well... at Home, you don't have to travel far to get there.
Just come down stairs in your pajamas and get to work right there and then. It's so convenient.
What is this article about?
Basically this is about starting a Home Business, what's involved, what options there are, how much it can cost etc.
I have already described the advantages of having a Home Based Business, so now we will discuss what is involved in starting one up.
When you start working for yourself there are several things you must take into consideration.
How much can I afford to spend on advertising, materials and other costs, can I afford to lose the money I am going to put into this business, where will I get finance from? And a million other things.
So I will break this down into many small chunks which will make it much easier to digest.
How much money will I need to start this up?
That is entirely dependant upon you and your goals. You should only invest as much money as you can afford to lose, this way, if everything goes wrong you can still live without too much interference.
That aside you must think how much you are going to spend on advertising. To work this out, you should take all of your costs and assign them a percentage of your finance which you will put into them. For example, if you had $10,000 to start your Business, you could assign 10% to advertising depending on how much everything else costs.
In my opinion you should work out your initial costs first, like rent and materials for example.
Then you can take what's left over and assign it to whatever else you want to spend the money on afterwards.
How can I tell if I can afford to lose the money I invest in my Business?
Very simply estimate the most that the business will cost you and assume that it wont make any money at all for a month, obviously this will be a big loss, but it will give you an idea of what COULD happen if your very unlucky.
If it looks like way more than you can afford to lose, then don't do it until you are more prepared. But please remember that in business, there is no reward without risk. So if you don't risk your money, then you wont be rewarded.
Do I need finance? And Where can I get it from?
Do you have enough personal savings to start the business you want to? If you don't then you will need external financing.
The place where most people will get there initial financing is the bank. But there are other places and people as well.
Bank
Mortgage for premises
Loan
Venture capitalists
Grants
And many more, but the above are the main ones.
I'm sure you know what mortgages and loans are, but chances are, you don't know what a venture capitalist is.
A venture capitalist is someone who contributes financing to a business in exchange for part ownership of the firm. This is ideal if you are starting an expensive business which you might not be able to afford, but expect high profits from.
But be careful, when you give up part ownership you give up some profits.
How to Start and Suceed with a Home Business
No matter who you are, remember everyone starts from ground zero as far as experience is concerned. Building a home business is no different. One will have to lay the foundation first of all which will consist of choosing a product or service, that requires knowledge of what you are trying to sell. You can't help your customer very well if you are unable to fully answer their questions. Do your research so that you may present yourself in a professional manner. This will compliment you in the future.
Learn how to promote your business. The big companies learned this long ago or they would have never become big. If you don't believe me look at the flyers in your mailbox or just open the paper. Advertising is the key to letting the world know that you have something that they need or want. You can not drive down the street with out seeing signs, posters, billboards, or a store window that says 30% off. Remember advertising is your voice, without advertising no one will know you exist. The louder your voice the more that will hear. Isn't that what you want, for them to come to see what you have? Don't whisper, scream to the world!
Now that you have brought the customers into your store whether it be a physical store or an internet site, be excited about your products or service. People love to be around exciting people. It creates an atmosphere in which sales are much easier to make. Let them know that you believe in what you are doing, in other words don't be a fake, customers can sense this and are turned off by it. If there is a warrantee or guarantee let them know this, it will help to make the sale. Always let the customer know that you are going to be there to assist them if any problems arise.
Now you need to establish a customer database, keep in touch with your clients on a regular basis. This is important! Send them advertise-ments, inform them of new products or services that you have added to your business. These steps will help you create confidence with your clients. It is also important to ask them for their feedback and suggestions that might prove to be beneficial to your business. Remember the customer is looking from another vantage point and may be more helpful than you might imagine.
Finally, don't be afraid of change or updating your business when needed. Times and trends change rapidly these days. Technology demands changes and requirements continually. Most of the time it is to our advantage to change with it so that we can meet the needs of an ever changing world and customer demands.
Just as computers and software demands are changing, so are the needs of your clients. The world is always moving and so must you to keep your business healthy and prosperous. By following these basic rules and using good old common sense you can and will have an enjoyable and rewarding business future. You make your own future...so make it bright!
How In Control Are You
Are you in complete control of your life or do you let others make all the major decisions about where you’re going, who you’ll do when you get there? Try this fun quiz to find out.
- You’re invited on a fab holiday with a mixed group of friends, male and female, but you know your parents won’t approve. You:
- Tell them but go anyway and to hell with the consequences. It’s your life, right?
- Lie to them, either pretending it’s an all female group or that the trip is necessary for work or study.
- Try to win them over, invite a couple of these friends over so they know your mates are not axe murderers or druggies. But you won’t go if you don’t win your parents’ blessing.
- Some friends plan a cinema outing but you don’t fancy the film they’ve chosen. You:
- Keep quiet about it. Why rock the boat? You’ll find someone else with whom to share your choice of film.
- Say you don’t fancy the film but will meet them later for a drink.
- Demand they all go to see your choice of film – your taste is infinitely better and your ability to argue stronger.
- When you’re out with your man, how do you feel about who picks up the tab?
- He does, of course, even if you earn more. That’s what are for, surely?
- You do, mostly, because you like to pay your way and it means you always get to go where you want to.
- No matter who earns most, you always split it down the middle for fairness.
- What is your idea of having fun?
- Life is a rollercoaster and you just ride with it. You like a wide variety of fun-filled activities, so long as there are lots of them.
- You hate big crowds and funfairs and prefer small, intimate gatherings. You shine best at dinner parties, restaurants or nights in with the girls.
- It all depends where the fun people are. You’re happy to join in whatever your friends are doing.
- Your boss has been extremely critical recently and you can’t seem to please her. You:
- Have it out with her, ask her what her problem is. You know you’re doing a good job and, if she doesn’t like it you know darn well you could move.
- Ask your friends and family for advice but, be honest, you don’t have to take it. You just need warm shoulders to lean on right now.
- You look at your performance overall, find ways to improve, then put then put them into action. You only confront her if she’s still unsatisfied.
- When bills, like credit card statements, arrive at the end of the month, what do you do?
- Shove them in a drawer till you vaguely think it’s time to pay them. You’re frequently behind with payments so get clobbered with late payment charges.
- You file them away in date order and them pay them in time, but always at the last minute.
- You’ve set up standing instructions with the bank so you just check to make sure the right amount has gone out.
- When do you plan your big holiday of the year?
- As soon as you get back from the last one.
- You always go for last-minute bargains, it’s more fun that way.
- By poring over brochures endlessly before making a final decision.
- You believe that taking good care of your health is …
- Something you know you should do and you know what you should do too. And you will – once you hit your 30s or 40s.
- You exercise regularly, never smoke, hardly drink, eat a balanced diet and get plenty of sleep.
- You know what you should do and you follow it most of the time but you lapse at times. Still, you try, don’t you?
HOW YOU SCORED
- a-3, b-2, c-1
- a-1, b-2, c-3
- a-1, b-3, c-2
- a-2, b-3, c-1
- a-3, b-1, c-2
- a-1, b-2, c-3
- a-2, b-1, c-3
- a-1, b-3, c-2
| Boy, are you a controller! The higher your score, the more you are in control of your life. Or would like to be. You’re just like Madonna, organizing your life so spectacularly that even your children come in the right order, on time, and when you want them. Your wedding will be, like hers, a major opportunity for people to see you exactly as you want them to. Like her, you’ll have every detail sorted. Sounds fun, doesn’t it? For goodness’ sake, lighten up. Life cannot be totally controlled. Ask yourself why you need to be in such control. Let go a bit more and you might finally do what you fear most – enjoy yourself. | |
| | Smooth Sailer (17-11) You like a bit of control over your life but you’ve no illusions. You know control is, well, an illusion. So you do what you can to control what you can but you don’t mind letting others sometimes lead the way, or let life take you where it will. Life isn’t completely about fate but nor is it something where we have total control over the script, principal players and plot. You recognize that. You’re healthy, fun to be with and friends appreciate you. Just make sure those parts of your life you are trying to control are the ones that matter – mostly your health and finances. As for the rest, have fun. Don’t be too hard on others if they don’t share your balanced attitude to life. |
| Doormat (10 or less) You’re either a complete wimp or, much more cleverly, you prefer to let others take the sweat out of your existence and make all your decisions for you. You’re so easygoing and laid back, you’re practically falling over. You don’t mind what happens to you. You know you’ll enjoy it. But you could be in denial. Maybe you fear others won’t listen to you so you just go along with what they say. Perhaps you fear trying to have more control over your life because you understand how hard this can be. Maybe you’re a youngest child or someone who has a “rescue me” script – you’re just waiting for others to make your life okay. It won’t work. Your need to grow up a bit. It’s fine to be easygoing, but try to form some opinions of your own. | |
Discovering ones own body – with the help of a partner
Too often women expect their men to pleasure them without having first identified what they like. This is not to say that women do not recognize when something feels good, rather, what I am suggesting is that some women do know what the literal motions are that cause them to feel good. Thus, this exercise is designed to help women identify which motions are most pleasing to their own bodies. Given that this is a two-person exercise, the male will also benefit from this exercise. Not only will he be with a woman who has a greater awareness for her own body, but he too will have learned with her what types of motions turn her on the most!
This exercise begins when the male has an erection and the female is lubricated. Some couples prefer masturbating to ensure a ‘hard’ erection and a ‘wet’ vagina. If the woman is having trouble lubricating, sometimes adding a little bit of Astroglide, a water based lubricant, is helpful. Once wet, engage in coitus with the woman on top. Specifically the male should lay still to encourage the woman to engulf his erect penis with her vagina. The woman should then move her hips in as many different ways as she can think of, all the while taking note of which motions feel the best to her. Having discovered what feels best, repeat, but this time changing the position of the knees / legs. Specifically a) squatting, b) sitting upright with legs out in front (so the motion comes from using your arms to help move you, c) laying down with both feet being near each other d) kneeling while leaning forward e) kneeling while sitting upright. Again move the hips in all different directions a) forward, b) side-to-side, c) circular and d) up & down. Throughout all of these positions their should be silence between the partners. The goal of this is NOT for the male pleasure, but rather for the female pleasure. She is simply moving for her own excitement. Then, at the woman’s command, the man should tilt his pelvis a) back, b) none c) slightly forward d) all the way forward. Again, the woman will need to repeat all the different positions so that she will be able to determine which positions causes her the most arousal.
Helpful hints:
. . . .tell your partner how much this exercise is turning you on. Tell her let go of her inhibitions and to ‘ride you’ any way that feels comfortable. Get creative verbally and find ways to give her permission to be selfish and just to focus on her own sexual pleasure.
For the female . . .use this as a great opportunity to focus on yourself for once. Too often lovers spend too much time trying to please the other and they forget about focusing on self. Remember sometime knowing that someone is orgasmic from their penis is as much of a turn on as receiving a blow job.
Vaginal Dryness
(written by Kelly Connell, MS.Ed.)
Ask Kelly,
I have recently started to have problems with vaginal dryness due to my age. I will be talking to my doctor about this to look at options. This question may seem silly but since I have never had to use lubrication before I would like to know how and where to apply the lubrication to make it most effective and to make it last the longest so we don't have to stop to reapply if possible. Also suggestions also on what products work best. We use condoms so the product has to be condom friendly to. Thanks for your help.
Dear Suzanne,
You did not mention how old you are or if you are going through menopause but I will try to give you some tips that may help you. First, you are absolutely correct when you mention talking to your doctor. He/She may want to give you hormone replacement therapy. Also, vaginal dryness can be a side effect of certain medications.
There are NO silly questions! I am glad you felt comfortable enough to write to me. There are many brands of lubricants out there today. Flavored, unflavored, some with spermacide, some thick, some thin etc. If you are using condoms, which by the way, is great! you want to use something that is WATER based. DO NOT use oil based products like vaseline, cooking oil or some of the lubricants sold in stores. Always check the label first. Oil based lubricants destroy condoms very fast and they will make them break within minutes. Water based lubricants are condoms friendly. As for brands, there is KY Jelly or Liquid, Astroglide, and Wet just to name a few. Some are available at your local drug store, but depending where you live, stores like
HTHGS: Wet Vagina (Kelly Connell, MS.Ed.)
Dear Kelly,
Please help me. I have an embarrassing thing I need help with. My vagina is always wet unbelievably. Sometimes it is nice but other times it is very embarrassing. I am not that horny of a person to be wet all the time and it is gross because my underwear is always wet as well. Please tell me what I can do to make it better. It worries me because I think men think it is gross sometimes when I get fingered when they pull out their finger there is slime stuff on it. I know that I do not have a sexual transmitted disease so it is not discharge. Is douching something I should look into???? If so how to I go about doing it. Embarrassed Sue
Dear Sue,
Please do not be embarrassed. Women's vaginas are like a self-cleaning oven. They continuously lubricate and clean themselves to protect against infection. The amount of vaginal lubrication also changes with the menstrual cycle because of the hormone fluctuation in the body. The slime stuff you are referring to may be occurring when you are ovulating and the vaginal secretions take on an egg white appearance and texture. This is perfectly normal. There are vaginal secretions that have nothing to do with sexual arousal, they are just part of the normal function of the vagina. The first thing I would do is make an appointment with my gynecologist. Just because you don't have a sexually transmitted disease does not mean there isn't something else going on. Ask them to do a blood test to check your hormone levels. You may be producing a lot of a certain hormone and your body responds by producing an excess of vaginal secretions. or you may just be one of those women who lubricate a lot and that is what is normal for you.
If you are concerned about your partner’s reaction to your lubrication, try having a towel or wet washcloth next to the bed or where ever you are having sex where he can wipe his hands if he wants to. However, many times I think the woman is worried about his reaction and he doesn’t even notice or think anything is wrong. If you are concerned about your underwear, try wearing an unscented panty liner.
Lastly, DO NOT DOUCHE!!!!! I cannot stress this enough!! Douching is bad for you for several reasons. The advertising industry tries to convince women that their vaginas should smell like a rose garden. You have a natural smell and secretion level. Douching wipes all the normal secretions away and your body OVERCOMPENSATES by producing MORE secretions! In other words, it will come back heavier! You are also wiping away the normal bacteria that live in the vagina and it will come back heavier too, often resulting in a infection as the bacteria produce at a high rate to try to catch up. If you do have an infection douching pushes the infection higher up into your vagina transferring all that infection to your uterus and fallopian tubes. it can be very dangerous. Even the ones made of water are unsafe. If something does not look right, feel right or smell right it is usually because something is not right and you need to get to a doctor! Same goes for all the deodorant tampons, pads etc. You are putting chemicals into your vagina every time you use them. I hope this helps Kelly Connell, MS.Ed.
Relationship Problems
(written by Chris Fariello)
Ask Chris,
I have been seeing a man for about 1.5 years and he has not introduced me to any of his family and I have met only one of his friends (and I was introduced as a business partner), his son and his ex girlfriend, (his son's mother for only a minute). This in itself is weird. My first thought / feeling was that he had another woman, he swears not.
We live about an hour apart in
We work together in a business environment and speak to each other daily. Each time I agree to let go or break it off and say goodbye as lovers, he agrees but insists we must be friends and keep in contact with one another.
My biggest "beef" is that I feel that we have not been together as a couple, he has kept me at a distance for some time unless it has involved his son and mine who are close in age, or our business relation which may remain in any event. We have had amazing sex together, something he says is hard for him to let go of. I do like him as a person and we both have our own emotional baggage, but I feel that I am constantly shut out by him i.e.. when he arrive to see me he is already announcing his departure for the next day as he walks in, he had not invited me to a couple of parties he had last summer, and has already planned his vacation with his son alone this summer. During the course of this relationship we have seen each other 2 - 3 times a week max and spend little to no vacation time together as he wants to be alone with his son, that is alright with me as I have my own son to raise. We have had lucid times together and enjoy each others company from time to time.
He gives me mixed messages, from marriage to I'm not ready now to let's wait until summer, he always suggests that if I wait until whenever things are going to change and he will be ready then and in fact this has been going on for the duration of this relation and nothing has changed but my attitude, I want to move on from this and not think about why he would be so mixed up.
Last weekend I caught him lying to me and he had admitted to lying to me before. He said that he was with his son out of town and would not be back until later that day and my call display indicated he was in fact in town. He said he did not want to tell me because he wanted to something other than spend time with me and did not want an argument. At that time I told him our personal relationship was off, completely. Since that time he has called every day at least 3 times to tell me how much he misses me and likes me and now wants me to meet his brother and friends who live close to me. He has also said that he really wants this relationship to work out (only after a professional meeting where the prospective client was interested in me as a woman and he was jealous). This man grew up without his mother after 14 when she passed away, if that has any bearing. I had grown up in an abusive household myself and have had years of therapy for it.
My question is why would a man say not now, you are free, I want this to work out, and I want you forever but wait? What is the best way to say goodbye and be able to maintain a professional relationship? Thanks for your time,
Janis,
I feel for you. Your story is not necessarily an unusual one and I would need to know more understand the reason behind both your and his decision to remain in this type of relationship. What does stick out, however, is that you do not sound happy about the current situation. I usually suggest to my clients to go with their gut. If you feel cautious about his intentions you may want to see that as a red flag. This may not speak directly to his character but rather the similarities to each of your perspective WANTS in terms of a relationship. You have spent 1.5 years already. Assuming the relationship will not progress, how much longer would you be willing to "settle" for good sex and occasional meetings? His recent reaction can be the result of many catalysts, perhaps he is sincere, or perhaps he only believes he is. Knowing/believing will be difficult. Establish for yourself specific boundaries and enforce them. It's important that you take responsibility for your own decisions in this relationship.
As for saying goodbye- this is never easy. Again, you need to make a decision for yourself, set boundaries, and let him know what they are. Then you must stick to it. Typically there is pain associated with breaking up. This tends to be elongated when the break up drags on and on with hopes that things will change (typically, he will change) and they never do.
Finally, it can never hurt to seek professional help, even for a short time, to help understand how you ended up in this type of relationship and well as mourning the loss.
Janis, if you demonstrate to people your strength, they will see it and offer you the respect you deserve. You will also get more of your wants, and will spend less time waiting for others to meet your expectations.
How to Get Customers to Recommend Your Business to other Customers!
Do you contact your customers after they have made a purchase?
If you don't then you really should.
Today I will show you how to get customers to recommend your business to other customers simply by contacting them.
For example, a while ago I called penny, one of my customers to see how she was getting on with some of my products. She said that she was doing very well and was very happy. I asked Penny if there was any way that I could improve my services to her. She said that she was more than satisfied with my service. I also used this opportunity to ask her if she had anyone in mind that she felt would benefit from my products and services, she recommended tow more customers to me.
So ask your customers to recommend you to a friend or colleague. You can use a business card for this or simply just ask them.
If you do use a card ensure that you tell your customer to add their name on the reverse. you can offer your customer a gift as a show of your appreciation, if you like., Gifts can include; business promotional items, flowers, chocolates, dinner for two, vouchers, what ever you feel appropriate. You must not ignore this method of stimulating more referrals as it is very effective and works many times over.
Kissing Techniques!
The key to good kissing is creativity, active listening, and changing patterns. Creativity speaks for itself. Creativity includes trying new ideas, and/or new combinations of movements, locations and moods. Active listening refers to paying attention to your partner's verbal and non-verbal signals.
Is your partner currently excited? Is your partner in a happy or sad mood? What does your partner want to do? Is your partner wishing for a quite evening of talking, or does he/she want a romantic encounter, a quickie, or animistic lustful encounter? Which movements turn your partner on the most? Which ones the least? Changing patterns refers to the alterations of types of kisses used.
Half of a good kiss is the anticipation of the imagination about what will follow and what this kiss means. Very rarely will a partner complain that the pace is too slow. The slowness can actually raise the sexual tension by 'pacing' the sexual encounter. Each stage will have to be fully explored before moving on. Sometimes, the simple act of kissing is enough. Kissing does not always lead to intercourse. Sometimes, the simple act of kissing is enough. Kissing does not always lead to intercourse. Sometimes a kiss is exactly what a couple wants, something steamy, hot, romantic, and connected. A frequent mistake that long term couples make is that a kiss is always a signal to intercourse. Or that a kiss should always follow a set order and path. Routines. (while pleasurable) can also be deadly. Routines sometimes can act to diminish the excitement, because the other person already knows exactly what will come next. In that way, a "first" with someone new is always exciting, because you simply have o idea about what to expect. Therefore, in an effort to help people 'break' old patterns a set of different types of kisses have been collected. It is my hope that you will all, on your next date, keep these ideas in mind and practice them on your next kiss.
Type of kissing
- Simple fast kiss on the lips
- wet fast kiss on the lips
- dry fast kiss on the lips
- Suspenseful kiss on the lips. The type that has a long build-up and both parties wonder when the other one will start to lean over... or if the other person is even interested.
- Elongated kiss. This one involves a bit of mouth movement (opening and closing). Elongated kiss, with the use of your tongue. Imagine sucking on your arm, while using your tongue to DAINTILY pull in the skin, and the DAINTILY push the skin back onto the arm. Another way to imagine this is, to think of using your tongue to 'knead' the skin on the arm. Similar to 'kneading' bread. The movements are best when slow, steady and precise.
- Slobber kiss. This is excellent for cunnilingus and fellatio. The saliva acts as lubrication. However, at all other times, unless specifically requested, avoid the slobbery kiss.
- Wetting lips kiss. Run your tongue along the contours of their lips.
- Sucking kiss. Exactly that. Suck on their lips.
- Upper lip kiss. Only kiss the upper part of the lip.
- Lower lip kiss. Only kiss the lower part of the lip.
- The nibbling kiss. Literally, nibble on their lips and nibble/kiss all over their cheeks and ears.
- Tongue sucker kiss. Literally, suck on your partner's tongue as if it was a finger.
- Teeth cleaner kiss. While kissing, run your tongue along the inside of their mouth. Explore the structure of your partner's teeth. Feel each tooth (within reason), one by one. By following each grove, note the textures of the tooth.
- Tongue player kiss. Use your tongue to play with their tongue.
- Mouth explorer kiss. Use your tongue to explore the rest of your partner's mouth. What does the inside of your partner's cheek feel like, the back of the lips? Does it feel dry, hard, of firm?
- Public kiss. Kiss your partner in public, kiss your partner in private.
- Motion kiss. Change kissing speeds.l Begin super slow, and then let yourself speed up. The beginning part of the kiss should last at least 10 min, then after your partner can not stand it any longer speed up. Then, do not forget to slow your speed down. Too much of anything is not a good thing. Frequent subtle alterations, keeps the person guessing as to what will come next.
- Loud kiss. Kiss your partner while making loud kissing noises.
- Silent kiss. Kiss your partner without making any noise - best to practice when someone is around and you do want to be heard.
- Copycat kiss. Kiss your partner the exact way that she/he kisses you. Follow your partner's lead.
- Open eyed kiss. Maintain eye contact during kissing.
- Closed eye kiss. Close your eyes and imagine how this kiss will lead to the best sexual encounter ever imaginable.
- Lick kiss. While kissing, use your tongue to lick her tongue, her teeth, and the roof of her mouth. Do not confuse this 'lick' with a dog's sloppy wet kiss. This 'lick' is very precise. This technique is meant to be used to pull you partner's mouth slightly closer to your and to feel what your partner feels like. Please note, your partner's mouth should be relatively dry afterwards.
- Talking kiss. The talking kiss refers to whispering sweet nothings to your partner as you kiss them on their lips. In between each kiss or two, while still invading their space, sharing thoughts with them about how much you like them, or how much they turn you on. (i.e. the dress you wore last night, your eyes, the way you handled the situation at dinner etc.)
- Elevator kiss. Sneak a kiss in to your partner when you are on the elevator and no one else is around.
- Peck kiss. Just a fast kiss on the lips, where you literally peck your partner on the lips.
- Isolated kiss. Just one kiss.
Home Business, What's So Great About It?
Home Business allows you more time to do what you want.
Home Business gives you more freedom i.e. no more 9-5 job.
Because a Home Business is well... at Home, you don't have to travel far to get there.
Just come down stairs in your pajamas and get to work right there and then. It's so convenient.
What is this article about?
Basically this is about starting a Home Business, what's involved, what options there are, how much it can cost etc.
I have already described the advantages of having a Home Based Business, so now we will discuss what is involved in starting one up.
When you start working for yourself there are several things you must take into consideration.
How much can I afford to spend on advertising, materials and other costs, can I afford to lose the money I am going to put into this business, where will I get finance from? And a million other things.
So I will break this down into many small chunks which will make it much easier to digest.
How much money will I need to start this up?
That is entirely dependant upon you and your goals. You should only invest as much money as you can afford to lose, this way, if everything goes wrong you can still live without too much interference.
That aside you must think how much you are going to spend on advertising. To work this out, you should take all of your costs and assign them a percentage of your finance which you will put into them. For example, if you had $10,000 to start your Business, you could assign 10% to advertising depending on how much everything else costs.
In my opinion you should work out your initial costs first, like rent and materials for example.
Then you can take what's left over and assign it to whatever else you want to spend the money on afterwards.
How can I tell if I can afford to lose the money I invest in my Business?
Very simply estimate the most that the business will cost you and assume that it wont make any money at all for a month, obviously this will be a big loss, but it will give you an idea of what COULD happen if your very unlucky.
If it looks like way more than you can afford to lose, then don't do it until you are more prepared. But please remember that in business, there is no reward without risk. So if you don't risk your money, then you wont be rewarded.
Do I need finance? And Where can I get it from?
Do you have enough personal savings to start the business you want to? If you don't then you will need external financing.
The place where most people will get there initial financing is the bank. But there are other places and people as well.
Bank
Mortgage for premises
Loan
Venture capitalists
Grants
And many more, but the above are the main ones.
I'm sure you know what mortgages and loans are, but chances are, you don't know what a venture capitalist is.
A venture capitalist is someone who contributes financing to a business in exchange for part ownership of the firm. This is ideal if you are starting an expensive business which you might not be able to afford, but expect high profits from.
But be careful, when you give up part ownership you give up some profits.
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